This all started in 2015 when I was listening to a Matt Kahn YouTube called The Love Revolution. In his talk, Matt basically challenged people to move out of their comfort zone by communicating to others that they are loved and appreciated. Something inside me was sparked by this challenge. I started to work out a way that I could approach anyone at random and convey to them that they are loved and appreciated – in a way that wouldn’t be threatening, misunderstood, weird or contrived. Over time, this simple little process blossomed and evolved and proved itself an amazing way to brighten people’s lives.
It can be done anywhere, any time, with any one. From the very first woman I did this with to now, hundreds of encounters later, the reactions have been consistently positive, heart opening and enriching. And to tell the truth, I’m frankly not sure who benefits more: the person I’m interacting with or me. One thing for sure though: once I got a taste of how good if feels to do this, I couldn’t stop. So be warned! 🙂
Anyway, the following is a short description of the process with some examples of the types of reactions and responses I’ve gotten. I encourage anyone reading this to try it. It’s one way to amp up the love frequency on the planet and will be loved and appreciated by everyone you touch.
THE BASIC PROCESS
You’re at the checkout counter (or wherever), you pay for the transaction, and the checkout person hands you the receipt:
- You ask them: “Can I ask you a question?”
- The response is always “Yes” or “Sure”.
- Then ask as sincerely and lovingly as you can: “Has anyone told you today that you are loved and appreciated?”
If the answer is “No”, I smile and ask them something like: “Well, may I?” to which everyone says “Yes”. I then might ask for their name and say: “Well, I love you, Felicia, and appreciate you for being here – for being YOU – and for helping me.”Alternatively, the answer might be something like: “Yes, my husband told me this morning that he loves me.” to which I say something like: “That’s so sweet. May I second that?” Everyone says “Yes” or “Sure” and I say: “Well, I appreciated and love you too. I appreciate you for being here and for helping me. I really do.” Or words to that effect. You get the idea.
Over the hundreds of times I’ve done this, the responses have been 100% positive. Here are some examples:
- “You just made my day. Thank you!”
- “That is so sweet. I love and appreciate you too.”
- “No (no has told me that I’m loved and appreciated), but thank you!”
- “That is so kind. Can I give you a hug?”
- “Thank you. You don’t don’t know what that means to me.”
Being male, I was at first a little nervous about doing this little interchange with men, but I soon found that my misgivings were unfounded. Men seemed just as open to these expressions of love and appreciation as women.
That’s all for now except this: Try this at least once and make someone’s day. I really believe you’ll be glad you did.
Whether you try this or not, I love and appreciate you for the time you just spent reading and considering these words.